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Today is the day, my friends!

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With all my heart,
Faith
I have a heavy heart because I know I'm part of the problem. And the problem is huge and daunting and seemingly impossible. And the problem is grievous and horrific. And you are part of the problem, too.

And the problem is sex trafficking.

This is ugly. It shouldn't exist, but it is like an oil spill in the ocean; it seems to permeate the world yet remain inextricable.

How can people be so evil to think they can sell other human beings to a life of torture, pain and hopelessness? Well, I think we all know the answer to that question.

But you know what? Justice is coming. God has heard the cries of the innocent, and He is coming, and He is here. He is already working, and He intends to use you and me.

The problem of sex trafficking has always broken my heart, but I never felt like I could do anything about it. I didn't feel strong enough to educate myself about what was really going on, and I didn't feel like I had any way to minister to rescued victims because I haven't experienced any pain remotely similar to theirs. Yet the Lord continues to burn their pain on my heart and give me visions of what I can do.

Short of signing up to work in the field to locate and raid brothels, here are five things that you and I can do to seek justice for victims of sex trafficking:

1) Quit viewing pornography. The pornography industry is a huge contributor to the demand for trafficked women and men... and children. And you may think, oh, I'm not watching that kind of stuff. But you are. It's all the same, and it all exploits people who need hope and abundant life. Just stop. Get help - counseling, accountability, Covenant Eyes, whatever you need. You're not the only person who has a problem, so don't let shame keep you from seeking freedom. And yes, women, you, too.

2) Purchase your clothes second-hand or from fair trade sources. Thousands of men and women are trafficked into near slave labor sewing the clothes we wear everyday. And I realize it's cheap and easy to buy clothes off the rack from a big brand store, but is cheap and easy most important? Take a little time to shop consignment or thrift stores. You'll save money and reduce the demand for cheap clothing. Trafficking is an intertwined system, so just because we're talking about who sews our clothes doesn't mean we're not addressing sexual slavery.

3) Get involved with an organization that fights human trafficking. Three great organizations to look into are Women at Risk (WAR), International Justice Mission (IJM) and A21. You can do everything from volunteer to donate to host a jewelry party that supports women who have been rescued from trafficking. Now that sounds like a home party I would want to attend!

4) Educate yourself. Know how this works. Be aware of the signs and who to call if you see suspicious activity. Sex trafficking isn't just out there. It's right next door. A couple of really good books are Open Your White Umbrella by Mary Frances Bowley and Sold by Patricia McCormick.

5) Pray. Why do I always put this last, when it is the most powerful thing? Yes, we should get involved hands on - God wants us to be His agents of justice - but prayer unleashes His power, and yeah, I don't think we can hold a matchstick to that. If you don't know where to start, try using one of these prayer resources.

Now you can't say you don't know what to do about it. So go do something!
...and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God...
Ephesians 5:2

Jealousy is unhealthy when not undergirded by love.

Jealousy with skin is naturally selfish.

Real love is naturally self-less.

It is good and right to be jealous for someone you love because you are jealous for them, not of them.

Preposition time.

  • of (caused by, resulting from) - jealousy caused by something a person possesses, whether material or characteristic or relational
  • for (indicates object, purpose or aim) - jealousy with the object of someone's best interest and well-being because you love them

When you are jealous for someone, you continue to love them at risk of them straying and sinning and hurting you because this love is self-giving.

Even so, you want this beloved to prosper, and you know the most blessed place is near God's heart.

True jealousy is this: that God loved us and gave Himself for us and now desires that we give ourselves fully to Him.



True jealousy is this: that a friend loved us and gave herself for us and now desires that we give ourselves fully to the Lord.



True jealousy is this: that a spouse loved us and gave himself for us and now desires that we give ourselves fully to the Lord.



True jealousy is this: that a parent loved us and gave himself or herself for us and now desires that we give ourselves fully to the Lord.


Because true jealousy is unselfish love. And all unselfish love is God's love.

How will you change your jealousy of someone to jealousy for them?
I'm very excited to announce that one week from today my devotional book, A Radiant Face: 30 Days of Looking to Him, will be available!

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One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Proverbs 18:24

I didn’t have many friends in college.

Was it because I wasn’t a very nice person?

I pondered.

Was it because I wasn’t very “cool” or “trendy”?

I was well aware of this.

Was it because I wasn’t friendly?

That is why I regret 15% of my life.

People argue whether college should be considered as much of a social education as it is. Should we encourage our graduating high school students to “have fun” in college? Is that its purpose?

Back in the day, college was a very prestigious, limited opportunity. It was an honor to be able to pursue an occupation that required college, an honor to be accepted into a college, and an honor to come from a family able to afford a college education.

Therefore, it was an honor to attend college.

Over time, an interesting thing has happened, however.

As college education became more expensive, it also became more accessible and in higher demand. A degree of some sort is required for nearly any job above minimum wage, so young people are compelled to pursue higher education.

It seems that a desire to compensate for the obligatory studies has led organically to a need for “release” through increasingly student-focused social activities. There have always been college parties, but never has it been so widely assumed that every collegiate would participate in such festivities.

But, see, I was better than the average college student. I held to the old-fashioned notion that college was an honor, and academics held priority over every area of my life.

I left with a 3.9 GPA, a division award and the satisfaction that I had indeed been a teacher’s pet.

What more could I ask for the last four years of my life?

And the 15%? I'm 24. So it's more like 16.67% of my life.

Students: college, now more than ever, is no joke. It is an incredibly expensive investment, one on which your future success depends greatly.

Don’t slack off in your classes. Don’t go to lecture in your pajamas. Don’t skip an evening class to attend a social event.

Also…

Don’t stuff your need for friendships. Scripture places just as much emphasis (if not more) on cultivating godly relationships as it does diligence and hard work.

Don’t avoid the social gatherings. If you’re like me, you may struggle with wondering whether anyone would want to hang out with an uncool person such as yourself. Stop it. That’s insecurity - and insecurity is pride. Go to a party.

Don’t neglect your professors. Depending on the size of your university, your professors may or may not have time to develop a personal mentoring relationship with you. If you are privileged to attend a small school like I did, make sure you recognize the value of that relationship and continue to communicate that to your professor even after college. Not only will this make you a nicer, more other-centered person, it will help greatly with networking and finding internship, job and graduate school opportunities.

I can only hope that most people aren’t like me in pursuing academic success at the expense of relational successes. I write this not to make you feel bad for me, but as a warning to those who follow behind: if you do what I did, you will regret those four years. You will dwell on how you have no close friendships left from college because you ignored everyone as a defense mechanism against possible rejection.

By the grace of God, my friendship-building skills have improved dramatically since college, and I am grateful to say I have many friends who don’t just tolerate me, but (I’m fairly certain) enjoy me.

This message is not just for the collegiate, but for everyone who is in a season of life where valuable time must be divided and choices must be made. Do your work, whatever it is, and do it well, but never sacrifice friends for grades or people for pay.


Love God first, and love others as yourself. As you seek His kingdom, all this will be added.
Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.
Hebrews 11:1

The basis of faith in the Christian life removes all control of our eternal destiny.


To live by faith is to live out of control.

To live by faith is to surrender.

To live by faith is to die.

When you live by what you do, you have control. You can choose to make a good decision or a bad one, do a kind thing or a mean one. You can be fairly certain what the result of your choices will be.

Yet we know that we can't control our eternal destiny, anyway. We know that our good works are as filthy rags before Holy God. We know that we are chasing after the wind.


Our faith is what saves us.

But no, God's grace is what saves us.

Because faith is a doorway. Faith opens the door to let in the grace of God.

And faith recognizes that our whole life is in His hands. From beginning to end.

There's nothing we can do but surrender.

Faith is out of control.

And here's the thing: it is only by God's grace that we can have faith to understand God's grace that gives us grace to have faith to comprehend the grace of God.


I will walk by faith.

Thank you, Jesus.

I am completely dependent on You.

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God...
Ephesians 2:8
"His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’"
Matthew 25:23

We spend our days searching for significance, looking for a way to leave our legacy. We want to know and be known, and we want to be known for something good.

Sometimes I plan my funeral. Yes, maybe a weird thing for a 24-year-old, but I want my funeral to be similar to one I attended a few years ago. One of my mom's best friends died of cancer. She had attended a mega-church, and at her funeral, the church was packed. People she had touched with her kindness, wisdom and passion for the Lord flooded the room to testify to the legacy she left.

Since then, I have often thought, I want to be the kind of person that packs a crowd at my funeral. I want to be that kind, generous, wise person that people want to remember and celebrate.

After reflecting more on this woman's funeral, though, I realized that, more than a celebration of her life, it was a celebration of Christ. She loved the Lord, and she poured His love into others in such a way that they turned their eyes upward.

How do I live that kind of life? How do I live to leave a legacy? How do I live so that the love of Christ I've invested lives on and takes root in the lives of people?

The best motto I've found to help me focus on this is JOY. Jesus. Others. You.

Jesus. Is Christ the most important One to me? Do I speak His name with love and joy? Do I devote my time and energy to knowing Him and making Him known?

Others. Do I put others before myself? Do I serve without grumbling? Give cheerfully? Love unconditionally? Forgive quickly?

You. Do I see my time as mine or as a gift from God to be invested? Do I care for my soul and invest my talents, financial and otherwise, so that I am able to serve the Lord with my all?

I fall so very far short, but I know He will help me live this kind of life if I continue to ask Him for guidance and strength. And no matter what people think of me at the end of my life, my greatest desire is that He say, "Well done."

What about you? Do you ever think about your funeral? Have you chosen a motto for your life?
Out in the open wisdom calls aloud,
    she raises her voice in the public square;
 on top of the wall she cries out,
    at the city gate she makes her speech:
“How long will you who are simple love your simple ways?
    How long will mockers delight in mockery
    and fools hate knowledge?
Repent at my rebuke!
    Then I will pour out my thoughts to you,
    I will make known to you my teachings.
Proverbs 1:20-23

Wisdom doesn't need a disguise. And that's exactly why it's hard to find.

You see, foolishness is always dressed up. Lies are always camouflaged so they look like truth.

But wisdom doesn't need a disguise. So when you line up all of them, it can be hard to see through the facade and charade to the verite. Yes, that's French for truth.

I was listening to Proverbs through my Bible app earlier, and it's amazing how the living and active Word of God speaks to me in so many fresh ways. As I listened, the words, "calls aloud," "raises her voice," and "cries out" stuck out to me.

Wisdom is speaking loud and clear. Are we listening? Or are we so deafened by the whispers and rumors of foolishness that we can't focus our ears to hear wisdom?

Maybe we can tune in and learn to distinguish wisdom from the cacophony. How?

Why doesn't wisdom need a disguise?

1) Wisdom is truth. Truth is truth. There wouldn't be such a concept as truth if it wasn't real and necessary, and, well, true in our world. Truth doesn't need to hide because it's what is right and honest and real about life. No shame.

2) Wisdom, quite often, is just plain common sense. Think about it. Is it wise to marry someone who has vastly different beliefs about life than you? No. Common sense says you'll be alone in your beliefs and committed to someone for life that you'll disagree with about things that are most important to you and closest to your heart. Or, something less dramatic: Is it wise to buy stuff you can't afford (now or ever)? Um, no. Common sense says debt is a stressful, dangerous thing.

3) Wisdom is good. Since we serve a God who is wise, we know that wisdom comes from Him. And since our God is good... add it up and we have a good God who bestows wisdom. When we are in tune with God and what He says is good in His Word, we can know wisdom by what is good.

Good is not the same as "nice," however. That is a tricky thing in today's culture because we are told that being "nice" is what is good. The Bible doesn't talk about being nice; the Bible talks about being kind, patient, loving, self-controlled, wise and innocent. Kindness is being respectful and loving to someone, and may also include telling them in a gentle but confident way why something they are doing or thinking is wrong because we don't want harm to come to them.

Listen to the voice of wisdom. She is easy to hear.


After this I looked, and there before me was a great multitude that no one could count, from every nation, tribe, people and language, standing before the throne and before the Lamb. They were wearing white robes and were holding palm branches in their hands.
Revelation 7:9

I'd like it to be said of me that I loved the Lord my God with all my heart, soul, mind and strength.

So I'm learning Tagalog.

You see, my exotic hubby hails from the tropical islands of the Philippines.

He's a package. "Love me, love my language."

I love language, people. I'm a sure crier when we sing Revelation Song in multiple languages.

Genesis tells us that language was a curse, and Revelation tells us that God has redeemed language to be a blessing.

I give up easily when things get hard, though. So I've done lesson one about ten times since this tri-lingual man and I tied the knot. (Yes, he speaks Chinese, too.)

Sometimes we narrow the definition of loving God with our minds to using Bible dictionaries and reading commentaries and studying theology.

Update on the case: Theology is the study of God, and God created... you guessed it - language!!

By learning a new language, I'm loving God with my heart because I'm serving and loving my husband, his family and our Filipino friends.

I'm loving God with my soul because understanding God through the lens of another language and culture deepens my knowing of Him.

I'm loving God with my mind because, well, brain power.

I'm loving God with my strength because He asks me to persevere, to run the race with endurance.

So I'm renewing my focus today. Every day is a fresh start. Praise God that both He and my husband are long-suffering with me.

Magandang umaga! Beautiful morning!

What exercise has God called you to as you love Him with your mind? Are you learning a new language? New skill? Reading a challenging book? Any encouragement/motivation you can give me if you're on the other side or at least past lesson one?


Mothers show us a part of who God is. Why are you thankful for your mom?
Last week I talked about the benefits of a plant-based diet. Today week I'm addressing some common objections/concerns/questions regarding eating this way.

1) It's too expensive.

Not an expert on this yet, having only eaten this way for six weeks now. I can tell you I only spent $25 at the grocery store the first three weeks, however, I did already have some bulk grains in my pantry and meat for my husband in the freezer. And there are only two of us. And I didn't meal plan.

So, if nobody's eating meat, you meal plan, and you buy in bulk, you're going to do well. I don't know if you'll spend less, but I'm quite sure you'll at least break even.

Another thing to consider is what kind of foods you'll be eating. Some people eat only raw whole fruits and vegetables and the occasional bowl of quinoa or lentils. That's going to be cheaper because those foods are less processed and more readily available. If you want to be a gourmet vegan chef, you'll be spending the big bucks on specialty items. I'm somewhere in the middle. I like variety, but I also like to not spend exorbitant amounts of money.

2) It's not yummy.

Once again, this all depends on your "type" of plant-based diet. You can actually make a vegan diet very yummy and unhealthy (Oreos, graham crackers, potato chips are all vegan), you can eat celery sticks and brown rice for every meal or you can experiment in the middle with a few prepared foods, a few raw foods and a few plant-based recipes.

I have tried so many yummy-nummy combinations of fruit- and vegetable-rich foods. The possibilities are endless. I have found a lot of great vegan recipes on Yummly. If you download the app to your phone, you can search for recipes using ingredients on sale at the grocery store, etc.

3) It doesn't offer complete nutrition.

This is a teeny tiny bit true, I will admit. There are a few vitamins and minerals that you have to be more intentional about while eating a plant-based diet.

Vitamin B12 - found in meat, soil and supplements. You can either eat a spoonful of dirt or take a vitamin. Here's the thing, though: the main reason people have a deficiency in B12 is because their digestive system isn't breaking it down and dispersing it well, not because they aren't getting enough in their diet. That being said, I choose to be safe and take a vitamin supplement.

Vitamin D - found in cow milk, fortified alternative milk, sunshine and supplements. So many options here! It's easy to find fortified soy or almond milk, and who doesn't love a bit of sunshine? Sunshine is much harder to get where I'm from, so I supplement as well.

Iron - red meat, spinach, broccoli, and pumpkin seeds, to name just a few. Yum! Pumpkin seeds are yummy and crunchy, and broccoli is one of my favorite veggies!

Protein - meat and nuts are not the only protein-packed foods out there.  They may have the most complete protein, but you can find high amounts of protein from so many very healthy and delicious sources. Nearly all veggies have protein (fruits do not usually have very much), and there is the classic beans and rice combo, which form a complete protein. This is something my grandpa liked to talk about. He knew a lot of stuff. I don't intend to explain proteins here; I'm not a nutritionist or scientist, I'm just trying to offer an overview.

3) My family won't do it with me.

I'm with you! I'm going it alone. Thankfully, one of my bestest friends has been vegan for several years now, so she and I can talk and plan and cook together sometimes. But most days, it's me and my veggies, and the formerly pleasant smell of my husband's pork asado (emphasis on formerly).

Being on the same page with your spouse on such an important matter as what you eat and how you shop is so important. Thankfully, my husband is fine with me doing this as long as I don't spend exorbitant amounts of time or money to make it happen. He would still prefer to pay $.99/lb for chicken than $6.99/lb to get the grass-fed, organic, pastured, local stuff, but we're still working that out with the food budget and our personal views.

While I would love to buy everything locally, ethically and organically (is that a word?), I will not go over my husband's head to do something because I respect him. And because he earns all the money. ;)

Meal prep is not such a big deal for three reasons:
a) My hubby likes to cook sometimes.
b) He is willing to try vegan food on occasion.
c) We don't have kids yet.

I still make him meals with meat about once a week, he cooks once a week, and then we both eat my vegan food once a week. Because there are only two of us, we have lots of leftovers and put them to good use in between cooking days.

4) It's not biblical.

God condones the eating of meat in several places in Scripture, which is why I do not believe eating meat is wrong. My concern is with how the meat we eat gets to our plates - what was put into the animals, how they were raised and how they were butchered.

That being said, there is nothing in the Bible that gives me the impression that God frowns upon plant-based eating. I think it is just one way to eat responsibly, ethically and healthfully in a way that honors God. However, I and other plant-based eaters must be careful to not fall into two traps that I've seen a lot in the vegan community: idolatry and pride.

Eating a plant-based diet should not consume my every thought. What we eat is an important part of our lives, certainly, but it's only one part. Also, I cannot think I'm superior to my husband or anyone else because of this lifestyle I have chosen. It is my choice, that is all. Others are trying to live well and honor God and may feel more convicted or passionate about other areas of their lives.

Did any of this help clarify something for you? Is there anything you have further questions about? What food do you think would be the hardest for you to give up if you were to go plant-based? Let me know in the comments below!


Dear Readers,

Anyone feeling overwhelmed? Better question: Anyone NOT feeling overwhelmed? ('Cuz you're the special ones.)

We can be overwhelmed by so many different things in so many different ways. What kind of overwhelmed are you?

Are you overwhelmed by negative circumstances in your life? Too many stressors? Relationship problems, job situations?

Are you overwhelmed with the amount of things you need to get done that seem non-negotiable or obligatory? Work? Chauffeuring children? Laundry? Yard work? Connecting with a difficult family member? Volunteering?

Are you overwhelmed by the sheer number of possibilities for your life? Maybe they're all good things, but you don't know where to go or what is the best thing?

If we're honest, we all find ourselves on this list somewhere. I'm very thankful to say my stressors in the first category are minimal to non-existent right now, but I've experienced them before. At this point in my life, however, I am dealing with the second two categories on a daily basis - getting things done, and making big life decisions (where to work, where to volunteer, where to invest, when to start a family, etc.).

Unfortunately, when I have too many good or bad stressors, I succumb to analysis paralysis. I have too many options, too many choices, and I just sit down and binge watch TV or binge eat salt and vinegar potato chips. Please tell me I'm not the only one.

Instead of letting our circumstances and choices suffocate us, however, God wants to use this time to teach us, bless us and draw us closer to Himself.

There are three things we should do when we feel overwhelmed.

1) Ask the Lord for wisdom to make a decision.

If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
James 1:5

God wants you to ask Him for direction. He wants to point you in the right direction. And He wants you to feel at peace with the direction you take because you are confident that the Lord has taken you there.

2) Ask the Lord to open your eyes to what He is teaching you about Himself during this time.

I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better.
Ephesians 1:17

More than anything, God wants to have a relationship with us. Jesus Christ made the way for us to communicate with the Father openly. The more you pursue and communicate with someone, the better you get to know them. And the more you get to know the Lord, the more you understand His heart and begin to desire what He desires!

3) Ask the Lord to equip you for whatever He's calling you to do.

The Lord said to him, “Who gave human beings their mouths? Who makes them deaf or mute? Who gives them sight or makes them blind? Is it not I, the Lord? Now go; I will help you speak and will teach you what to say.”
Exodus 4:11-12
Instead of sitting around doing nothing because you're too afraid you won't do it well (believe me, I've been there... far too many times), you can know that the Lord never called someone in the Bible to any task - great or small - without giving them just what they needed each step of the way to get it done. You've got the power!

The waiting is hard. I'm still a bit in limbo with some commitments I'm unsure of for the upcoming year and all of my nice, perfect, little summer plans that we all know won't play out quite like I imagine them in real life.

But can I just remind us that God is good, very good, and He wants you to do the right thing and do it well for His glory, and He is going to give you wisdom when you ask, reveal His heart to you and equip you for the journey ahead.

So let's get off our duffs and do one thing today that will give us even a small sense of order and accomplishment: Straighten that desk, clean up that kitchen, turn up the car radio and serve the Lord with all our heart, soul, mind and strength!
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